Get Energy Knots Out and Change Beliefs That Don’t Serve You

When you feel out of balance and want to shift this, you have to get your thoughts, emotions, and attitude shifted to a better energy level before you do anything else. An attitude improved even a small amount opens your mind to possibilities.

This is especially important if you’ve been feeling any sense of strain or stress in your life and/or business. You want a tool that works for you any time you feel your energy needs to be calmed, smoothed, soothed, or charged up.

The foundation of Self Energy Management is to know you can manage it.

First, recognize your energy is knotted about something and take a moment to appreciate that you have the awareness to notice this. You can only shift something if you know something would benefit from being shifted.

This may seem obvious, but when you’re in the thick of an emotion, it can take a while to recall that you know this. Once you’re aware that you’re sad, angry, or anxious, you actually make the first shift because now you’re no longer only in it, you’re consciously paying attention to it. It’s like the difference between being engaged fully in an acting role and remembering you’re acting a role.

Ask yourself if it’s all right if what bothers you isn’t solved or resolved completely today. If you’re addressing an emotion that results from a life-long issue or something you consider large, you may solve it right now and it may take a bit more time. And, you want to allow that.

You want to lighten up your energy, the emotion(s) you’re feeling about an issue, even just a little. If more of a shift happens, that’s terrific; but your goal is to feel even just a bit better than you do so you can gently shift the energy to get to whatever a good next action step is for you. You create a safe space for yourself where no self-judgment is allowed.

You suffer over most matters because of a belief. Often, the belief is, “This shouldn’t be happening.” Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional. Here are some right questions to help you shift upward, even if just a little. A little upward shift goes a long way.
What core belief do you have about your issue or situation? Does this belief serve you? How does this belief show up in your life? How do you feel about this?
Scale how you feel at this moment with 1 being the least intense and 10 being the most. Allow that number to be okay because it’s honestly where you are and you intend to shift this, even if just a little.
Ask yourself if you feel okay about making even a small shift now.
Think of a similar time when you had a similar feeling (it doesn’t have to be a similar matter or situation, just that you felt similarly then to how you do now) and it worked out. How did you manage yourself or work that one out? Maybe you used an inner process, an outer process, or both.
What worked then and how can you use what you did then now?
Ask yourself, “Will it be all right if I don’t solve or resolve this completely today?” This is a gentler way to manage yourself through this process than insisting that you fix it now! You may not have all the information or resources you need at this moment. It may be the only thing you can shift right now is your energy and emotions.
Take a moment to ask the above questions. Where does your energy register on the scale now?

What you want is a next action. You’ll know that a next action is the right one if you feel aligned with or enthusiastic about it. You won’t feel any resistance to it. When you use any of these energy-shift methods, it’s important to listen and trust. If you get, “Go for a walk” or “Take a nap,” you might think you should argue with this kind of information. But, what if it’s exactly what the next step is?

We tend to think we’re supposed to come up with the big or grand thing to do; but maybe that big or grand thing involves lots of steps. What happens? You feel overwhelmed. You create more knots. You want the next step, the next action—even if it’s small. That’s all. Then you want the next one and the next one after that. The step may be a small one, but it will get you to the next one. All you need now is the next step. Take all the steps and your desired outcome is a given.

Knotted energy is not something to be judgmental about. It happens to you and it happens to everyone at various times. You’re human and it’s okay to feel like a human. You don’t have to be perfect; you just need methods that you choose to use for your benefit, and then use them.

No matter what’s happening, you want to empower yourself with the ability to manage your energy. It’s always the first step to the next one.

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Is Your Wall Actually a Bridge?

It can happen when you start something new or bump into something old: you feel contrasts that seem like walls. What if a wall is really a bridge in disguise?

Someone I know mentioned a desire to start using guided meditation as part of her process not only to learn to relax but also manage and shift some of her habitual thoughts. I gave her a CD I had. The next morning she shared she didn’t think it would help. Every time the speaker instructed her to imagine something, she experienced a contrast. The contrasts that surfaced in her mind caused her to charge up negative associations. Instead of relaxing, she got more and more tense. Her initial and understandable judgment was that she’d hit a wall, or several, and couldn’t go any further.

The opportunity is she can observe where her thoughts lead her feelings to go, and which ones don’t work in her best interest or create the type experiences she truly desires—the most important bit being how she can choose what to feel—no matter what. This is a key point because . . .

What we ultimately want is a way to consistently return ourselves to the feeling state we desire when we’re pulled off center. If we think we want to change others or events that trigger reactions, we misplace our focus and wonder why our results don’t match our desired experience.

When you start something new, you’re like an untested rubber band that’s never been stretched in that particular way. You may feel constricted because of this or actually constrict against it.

When you perceive you face a wall and can’t move forward, the temptation is to believe what you perceive, call it a day, and go back the way you came. If you knew there was a switch that converted a wall into a bridge that led to a better place, would you look for it?

You may find the Power Tool I use as a switch beneficial.

I’ve divided thoughts into two worlds, and consider each as games I can “play.”

The limited world—
The power is outside of me.
This world embraces struggle, working long and hard, believing what experiences look like.
The past has more influence than this moment.
Worry and negative anticipation make sense.
Abundance, prosperity, joy, creativity, and ease are not my natural states.
What I think, believe, and feel have no effect on what I experience, because these are influenced by my outer experiences and others.
Any other form of limitation, whether inner or outer, lives here.

The Unlimited World is opposite of the Limited one.

Which of these worlds do you occupy or play in more often?

I make it a point to notice my thoughts and ask which world they belong to, which game they support me to play. This may seem simplistic, but asking myself this question has become an invaluable way for me to quickly refocus my energy and aim at my true targets. It’s a process that allows me to determine if a wall (perception, assumption, belief) is actually a bridge to a better game and experience.

You may feel that paying attention to your thoughts is like adding one more task to an already long list. But, what happens as you consistently do this is you lighten your load. All those non-supportive thoughts are like differently sized and weighted stones you carry in a sack over your shoulder. Recognize that you had to, at one time, pick them up and place them in the sack. Only you can pull each one out, look at it, and decide whether or not to keep lugging it with you.

Contrasting thoughts are not ones to avoid. If you manage them properly, you open a bridge that leads to more joyful, fulfilling experiences.

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