You’re supposed to ask for what you want, right?
What are your thoughts about how, when, and what to ask for? And what about
after you ask; is what you do then really that important?
If you’re familiar with the teachings of Abraham
through Esther and Jerry Hicks, or any ancient teachings readily available to
you today, you know you are always “asking” and you are always “receiving.” The
glitch or hitch is that we forget, ignore, or don’t realize that every thought,
but especially each emotionally-charged thought (positive or negative) is
received by the quantum field as a “request” to be matched up with an
experience. Fortunately for us, not every “request” gets fulfilled, for a
variety of reasons: slow energy, we change our minds often, or it doesn’t fit
into the bigger picture at that time or ever. For the more
scientifically-inclined readers, quantum physics confirmed this
thought-to-manifestation process; though, the scientists didn’t focus on the
emotional aspect.
The duration of a thought or an
emotionally-charged thought doesn’t matter as much as the “pure” quality of the
thought vibration transmitted, meaning the thought is a clear, concise one not
jumbled with other “stuff,” and it produces a distinct feeling in you. This is why you can have a passing thought that has
a pure “charge” and feeling to it that produces results the same as a thought
you pondered on for quite a while, and perhaps gets fulfilled even sooner than
one you dwelled on.
What about how you ask? A funny thing happened as
I began my notes for this writing: I realized I practice two forms of asking,
deliberately, that is. Before having this realization, I’d made a note that
rather than ask for anything tangible in the form of a stated or written
request, what I do is briefly think about what is needed or wanted –
practically skim over the thought of it - then connect with a deep feeling of
appreciation for all I have and have ever received, especially those times when
Source supplied what was needed in pleasantly surprising ways and at just the
right moment. This is followed with a silent, and sometimes aloud, heart- and
spirit-felt “Thank you,” which I feel through every cell of my body. According
to the Law of Matching Vibration (Attraction), the more you appreciate what you
have and have received, the more you receive and have to appreciate. But, you can negate this, which I
explain in a bit.
This note about feeling appreciation mentioned
above was made before my prior week’s article was published. As I turned my
attention to that other article, I heard myself silently say, as I do each
week, or before each engagement with a coaching client, “I ask for assistance
with this.” Huh?! Why did I use feeling
appreciation for one and a direct request for another? Both led me to conscious
receptive alignment, so what was the difference, as far as my consciousness was
concerned?
Then it came to me: When I wish to be of
beneficial service, I ask for specific assistance. When I’m ready to receive
more of my “good” or just want to feel better or really good, I appreciate. I’d
never noticed this distinction in my asking practice before. Kind of
illuminating, actually. But, that’s me. It’s possible that how you ask is or
will be different. Evidence of the effectiveness of your way is in your results
and How You Feel.
Okay, so we’ve looked at asking. What comes after
that? The bridge does. The bridge
between request and result is to practice trust. I could say “practice
patience,” but the word “patience” tends to annoy the ego-aspect of many, which
is understandable. So, practice trust imbued with appreciation, including about
right timing. This is helpful and beneficial because how you behave while you
wait matters, which I’ll explain.
One thing it’s best or wise not to practice after you ask is doubt. “To choose doubt as a
philosophy of life is akin to choosing immobility as a means of
transportation.” (Life of Pi) The
waiting time between request and result opens you to doubt. Resistance, struggle,
and doubt can result in a longer wait than originally intended. We are meant to
trust; and, perhaps, this is one of the primary things we are meant to learn
while here. Yes, we are meant to take action once we have a clear next step,
but we are above all meant to trust in the overall bigger picture unfolding and
evolving simultaneous to our individual experience. This not only leads to
trust and appreciation of Source, but also builds self-trust and personal and
spiritual power.
By all means, do some productive venting with an
appropriate person, coach, or therapist, if you need to, but then use the power
of your words in your favor, whether spoken or thought. This means letting go
of complaining, criticism, judgment, self-pity, seeking pity from others, and
so on. Sounds simple, yes? Not! But, it is doable. And it’s important you do it
because what you give, or give out, you get back: If you doubt or worry or
complain, you get more experiences than what you might have in the “normal”
course of your life, that cause you to doubt or worry or complain. Okay, let’s
face it: There’s a certain amount of doubt, worry, or complaining you might
feel justified doing while you try to figure your way through some of the mazes
you find you and your life in. But we all pretty much know that it’s one thing
to “ride a ride” a few times, and quite another to never get off.
When you practice doubt, worry, and complaining,
you negate your asking, because “have” and “have not” cannot occupy the same
mental, emotional, or physical space at the same time; and the one you feel
more strongly is the one usually matched, e.g., “I ask for (or appreciate) my
abundance” is negated by “I never have enough, and I never will,” or “Why does
everything have to be a struggle?” You can negate in the other direction as
well, e.g., “Nothing good is happening or ever happens for me” can become
“Something wonderful happens for me every day.” It also helps to know that
whatever you want more of, give more of. Need encouragement? Give it. Need to
be understood? Give understanding. Need generosity? Be generous in some way.
Need peace? Be peaceful.
I’m reminded of the movie, “50 First Dates,” which
is about a young woman with a head injury that caused her to relive the same
day over and over, in almost exactly the same way. Fortunately, her family and
those she interacted with the day of the injury are aware of this and go to
extreme lengths to repeat that day as close to exact as possible so she isn’t
traumatized. Also fortunate is that the young man who meets and falls in love
with her comes up with an inspired idea that helps her move forward in life; in
fact, it helps everyone in her life move forward. My point in using this movie
as an example is that our thoughts, words, and behaviors cause us, and those we
share our life with, to experience something similar to her experience each
time we practice repeating the same or pretty much the same non-supportive,
non-forward-moving, non-trusting thoughts, words, and behaviors.
Imagine that each time you ask for what you want
then follow that action with focus on or statements about what you don’t want
or don’t like, it’s like the movie: You basically return to where you started
from or experience a one-step-forward, two-steps-back “progression.” If we knew this was what happened, we’d be
more diligent about this, wouldn’t we? But isn’t this exactly what the Law of
Matching Vibration (Attraction) reveals does happen when this is our practice?
And if we pause to consider this, if we haven’t before, we’re all too familiar
with these types of experiences, aren’t we?
Yes, life continues along the time-stream it’s on;
and we add years and different experiences to our lives, but some of the same
experiences repeat. They repeat because, as Abraham-Hicks conveyed, “So if you
are predominantly thinking about the things that you desire, your life
experience reflects those things. And, in the same way, if you are
predominantly thinking about what you do not want, your life experience
reflects those things.” Joyce Meyer says it this way: Praise and raise;
complain and remain.
There’s also another aspect to all of this, one
not everyone may be pleased about, but it’s present all the same and ties
everything together. It’s something of a “Thy will be done” aspect, whether you
mean to convey this to God, Source, the Universe, or your Higher Self. This
doesn’t mean you do nothing; it’s more like “You gotta know when to hold ’em,
know when to fold ’em” kind of conscious awareness, because, as I stated
earlier, there is always a bigger picture unfolding and evolving. Butting your
head against this fact never helps, only hurts. What you resist persists.
Action sets you free, whether that’s inner or outer action; but even outer
action is birthed at the inner level, so start there with one other good thing
you can ask for.
The one other good thing you can ask for is
insight - or call it awareness or higher consciousness. But just like anything
you ask for, there is some level of action required on your part such as paying
attention differently; asking right questions, which can include asking for the
right question or questions; and being receptive to shifting at the inner and
outer levels, which may involve no longer practicing some long-held beliefs and
behaviors that really haven’t served you and your life the way you’d hoped, but
that may feel “comfortable” or that you may be addicted to.
Ask for what you need or want, as you are meant to
do. Use your emotions and words to soothe or keep doubt out of the picture.
Know and allow that there is a bigger picture happening that you are a part of.
Allow trust and appreciation to be your purest emotional charges and feelings. It’s
a good practice, one you’ll appreciate.
Practice makes progress.
© Joyce Shafer
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